Resources

Social and Facebook Groups

PolyVic Holds monthly socials and more structured discussion groups, as well as other ad hoc events.

Melbourne Poly Tribe Holds regular picnics for poly families and their supporters. Family-friendly polyamorous group of like-minded souls.

Sydney Poly Holds monthly socials and discussion groups. All welcome.

Brisbane Poly People Meetup Group.

Aussie Polyamory Australia/NZ facebook group.

Poly and Aussie Newer Australia/NZ facebook group.

Queer Polyamory Melbourne New facebook and discussion group focused on queer polyamorists.

Solo Polyamory For people who either are not in an enmeshed couple by circumstance, who prefer independence, or where the primary relationship is with oneself.

Poly + Mono Relationships Facebook group for monogamous people with poly partners.

Melbourne Polyamorous Meetup Social meetup group with regular get-togethers.

Australia/NZ Online Forums

Polyamory Australia Australia/NZ yahoo email group.

PolyOz Australia/NZ yahoo email group.

Fetlife – PolyVic For poly kinksters.

LivingPolyMono Yahoo forum for polyamorists with monogamous partners.

Media

No Open Communication, No Open Relationship Excellent Huffington Post interview with Robyn Trask (Loving More), Dr Elisabeth Sheff (poly academic) and Leon Feingold (OpenLoveNY).

Poly in the Media – Australia/NZ A great reference list of poly articles and interviews around Australia & NZ, dating back to 2005.

The Future of Relationships A fabulous panel discussion with Esther Perel (The Secret to Deisre in a Long-Term Relationship), Diana Adams (queer bisexual polamorous lawyer & advocate) and Reid Mihalko (Cuddle Party founder , sex & relationships expert).

Anne in Media

The Naughty Rude Show Radio interview October 2015

“I have a partner of 22 years…” UK Daily Mail/Take 5/That’s Life article, October 2015

Boomers With Benefits: a free love revolution with no rings attached The Age September 8th 2015

Women On The Line 3CR radio interview of Janet Hardy and  Anne Hunter, with Amy Middleton.

The Future of Sex Panel discussion on non-traditional romance and relationships at The Wheeler Centre. Hosted by Cyndi Darnell, with Anne Hunter, James Dominguez (Bi-Alliance) and Linda Kirkman (sexuality researcher and educator).

Love For More Than One ABC 7:30 Feature on polyamory.

The Joy of Polyamory Article for Archer Magazine by Anne Hunter.

Triple J Hack Interview with Grant Bailey, Abby Sandercock and Anne Hunter.

The Project Short feature on non-monogamous relationships.

Assumptions Radio National interview with Kate Beckwith, Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli and Anne Hunter. Polyamory section starts at 13 minutes.

Books

For short reviews of 37 books written on non-monogamy in the last 20 years, see this Polyamory In The Media page.

The Ethical Slut Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. One of the most highly recommended reads for people considering non-monogamy, this book is commonly referred to as “The Poly Bible”.

Opening up Tristan Taormino. Very readable, grounded, and highly recommended.

More Than Two Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. A practical guide to ethical polyamory.

Rewriting The Rules Meg Barker. Excellent reflections on the nature of human relationships and current societal expectations of romantic intimacy.

The Jealousy Workbook Kathy LaBriola. Exercises and insights for managing open relationships.

Love You Two Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli (novel). A teenage girl grapples with the discovery that her family is not as ‘normal’ as she believed. This is an excellent novel for teenage girls especially.

The Lesbian Polyamory Reader Marcia Munson, Judith Stelboum. Personal accounts of the joys, struggles, and successes of living lesbian life with multiple intimate involvements.

Border Sexualities, Border Families in Schools Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli. This academic work uses qualitative research to explore the impact on children and families of parental polyamory and bisexuality.

Understanding Non-Monogamies Meg Barker. This volume gathers contributions from academics, activists, and practitioners throughout the world to explore non-monogamous relationships across a broad range of structures.

Love In Abundance: A Counsellor’s Advice On Open Relationships Kathy LaBriola. A realistic look at some of the potential pitfalls in non-monogamy and how to navigate them.

Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá. An historic look at the evolution of monogamy in humans and human mating systems.

Living Nonviolent Communication Marshal Rosenberg PhD. Nonviolent Communication is an excellent communication tool, particularly for conflict resolution.

TED Talks

Shame and Vulnerability Brene Brown. The connection between vulnerability, shame, connection and belonging.

Rewriting The Rules Dr Meg Barker. The confusion generated by commonly understood relationship rules, and how we can change them.

The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship Esther Perel. The ongoing tug of war between erotic desire and the need for emotional safety and stability.

Rethinking Infidelity Esther Perel. Why do so many people have affairs? Do they always ruin a relationship?

Websites

 Polyamory Australia In particular the list of Health Professionals and Useful Links.

PolyVic Especially the Resources page.

PolyOz First Australia/New Zealand-wide online polyamory presence.

PolyFamilies Family-focused, with good resources.

Non-Monogamy Diagram – Franklin Veux’s Sexual Informantics, maps the diverse expressions of non-monogamy.  Click above the image for the labelled version.

What Is Polyamory? Franklin Veux’s personal journey and analysis of polyamory.

Relationship Tools

What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Inc. Extremely useful document for all health and allied health practitioners.

Consent: Not Actually That Complicated Animated explanation of consent, using tea as the analogy

Consensual Relationships Revisited Dr Meg John-Barker. Excellent and challenging exploration of where we need consent.

Jealousy: Unmasking The Green-Eyed Monster Kathy Labriola. Excellent jealousy desensitising exercise.

Opening Up: Open Relationship Checklist Tristan Taormino. Comprehensive tool for assessing partner comfort levels with different activities.

The 5 Languages of Love Link to a short questionnaire for assessing preferred methods of receiving love. Based on Gary Chapman’s book by the same name.

The Johari Window A useful model for the impact of self-awareness and self-disclosure on communication and relationships.

The Basics of Non Violent Communication Marshal Rosenberg PhD. Nonviolent Communication is an excellent communication tool, particularly for conflict resolution.

Kamala Devi’s Pod Relationship Agreement  An example of a comprehensive relationship agreement between four people.

The Diversity of Love Relationships A pictorial model of different relationship structures.

Out of the Fog: Boundaries An excellent exploration of boundaries (particularly in borderline personality relationships, but relevant to all relationships).

The Relationship Bill of Rights Eve Rickart and Franklin Veaux’s list of what you can reasonably expect in a relationship.

Along Came Poly: A Polyamorous Person’s Guide To Coming Out To Your Partner  Simple and effective cartoon-illustrated tips on do’s and don’ts.

Healthy Polyamory Some examples (not exhaustive) of healthy and unhealthy versions of polyamory.

Permission Slip Barbara Carellas’ list of sexual permissions we can give ourselves,

Poly/Mono or Mono/Poly Dr Elisabeth A Sheff. A look at the complexities of mono-poly relationships.

Staying Monogamous Using Polyamorous Principles Interesting article detailing some of the vital poly relationship skills that can enhance monogamous relationships.

Support Sites

Signposts and Mirrors Blog post by Kathi Wilson which lists a number of Australian mental health support groups, phone lines and websites.

Blogs

Polyamory in the News Links to and reviews of any media items featuring polyamory around the world.

The Polyamorous Misanthrope

Franklin Veux’s Journal

Journals of a Polyamorous Triad

Podcasts

Polyamory Weekly

Articles

Dating Two People At Once: Why I’m Polyamorous and Proud

Three Waves of Polyamory: A Select History of Polyamory in the United States Dr Elisabeth Sheff. A fascinating potted history of some of the ethical non-monogamy movements in the US.

Fun Stuff

It’s Not About The Nail Amusing clip about what generates conflict.

How To F*ck Up Your Relationship Tried and tested ways of ruining your relationships.

Twelve Poly Days of Christmas A bit of Christmas poly silliness.

Professional Resources

What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory by  Geri Weitzman, Ph.D.,  Joy Davidson, Ph.D., Robert A. Phillips, Jr., Ph.D.

 

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